It's okay to Feel Sad
Sometimes it’s you against the entire world. At times we feel lonely and miserable, not because someone did us wrong or something hopeless crossed our path. It’s just an eerie feeling lingering on. Why are we constantly struck by innocent traumas, which slowly creep in and swallow the good bits of our already not-so-happening life?
As cliche as it sounds, the cloud of unhappiness holds significance too. It’s a universal, simply healthy emotion we’re too fearful to showcase. The reason for this could be traced back centuries ago. Social stigmas, bizarre notions of being called weak, gullible, depressed, or even something as cold as a ‘Sadfish’ surfaced. Yes, surprisingly, this term exists in full bloom through the courtesy of gen-z. Sadly enough (no pun intended) we need to work really hard before this social perception could change forever.
One thing we all struggle with could be about recognizing our emotions, frustration, sadness, or even at times happiness. Can you recall the time you were exceptionally ecstatic/grieved and ended up over-sharing with the wrong person? Letting out all the pent-up emotions and bottled-up energy through the wrong windows. Adding on to the list of your regrets you had to lament over later on? Been there, done that. This typically stems from not acknowledging our emotions the right way which surprisingly makes them bigger. Just like a monster residing inside you and manifesting itself only when you were the most vulnerable. Then what could be the right approach for it? Voila! Excellent question.
Stop avoiding your emotions and start connecting with yourself. So can I stay sad, when I’m sad? Yes!
Whenever you’re struck with grief like a thunderstorm, do something you love, or seek out those who support you. If you want to keep it to yourself, jot it down on a piece of paper, scribble it down to the full stop and regulate your emotions through your words. Don’t forget to reinforce it by mentioning any prospects of overcoming it.
I know largely it’s easier said than done, so it’s okay if you end up crying your heart out or you choose to miss your favorite show in grievance or you were just exhausted. Make space for sadness, embrace it fully by validating it.
